Post Vasectomy Pain Forum

Vasectomy is a crime. They lied to us. I was lied to

I asked the doctor if this would effect my orgasm and he smiled and said" No it won’t effect your orgasm it will be exactly the same as before"

I then asked how many times will I be able to have sex with it and he smiles and says " As many times as you want"

those were both lies. That should be illegal and punishable to lie like that. Doctors are not supposed to cause harm. It is in fact their job to prevent harm.

What do I do now? 6 years later and i am in discomfort struggling with life.

I can’t sue. Even if I could. Money is not going to solve my problems.

It makes me angry how no one can stand up against this corruption and abuse.

I want to do something.

I am 25 years old. I was 20 when I got the vasectomy. It has been so destructive to my life. I have been through a lot these past years.

I just wanted to share with anyone about what I am doing to help.

I am going to eat as healthy as I can. Disciplined. No junk food. Lots of fruits and vegetables. This will help my body and mind.

I also am going to read books. I am also going to ignore useless media like nonsense on youtube or the t.v

I am only going to try and better myself as a human to better myself as a leader.

I want to get revenge on what these doctors did to me. However I feel myself so conflicted about if I even can.

On one hand I think the best I can do is to try and live the best life I can live.

On the other hand I dream of waking up the masses and making all genital mutilation illegal.

However they say a chain is only as strong as its weakest link. And sadly their are a lot of people out their that are weak links and believe in something that is wrong and think it is right.

I wish I could just man up quit my job forget about everything and go picket on the street marching around until people wake up to the lies.

I almost think that this is not my world. I do not have a place in it and I should just mind my own business.

I do not know. I used to believe in being a patriot and fighting for the truth and whats right.

I am so conflicted.

All I know is I am going to concentrate on myself for now because I am to confused about what is even going on the world is complicated.

I am going to eat healthy, sleep and read.

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I know they lied, but I was able to some sex with the aid of viagra. Expensive I know and the sex wasn’t great. I ws only 30 when my life ws ruined.

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I already had to lock your previous thread on the exact same topic, let’s keep it real brother.


The whole " I was lied to" thing has been beaten so many times on this site, many of us including myself are burned out on such topics and won’t join in on such rants. Been there done that and pretty much over it.

Like I told you in PM, you will not change anything for the better with violence. That media you speak of will make you out to be a crazy psychopath and tell the entire world that you have some serious problems - and you must’ve had a botched vasectomy, or something along those lines.

Best thing you can do is stop drinking the poison which is anger, and attempt to resolve the problem at it source. Lots of guys are trying a lot of different things in hopes of getting better. I hope you will consider such options for yourself - get better - and get over the past best you can. What’s done is done. Let it be the past and learn from your oversights and mistakes. Never again…


It kinda pissed me off initially, but an old mentor of mine once said to me - you layed down and let them do this to you - right? You believed the lies - right? You were smarter than that - right? :frowning:

It is okay to feel angry.
It is okay to feel hurt.

But it is not okay to wish harm on another. Ever.

Find a different word and healthier coping mechanisms. And, sorry you’re going through this.

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And that media will certainly mention that you were part of an online vasectomy pain forum. They will also mention that from their point of view, the pain forum seemed to be fueled with angry rants, etc. In the case of this forum, I wouldn’t put it past the media to blame the moderators of this website as well. That said, such actions would likely fall on guys like me and several others including the owner of this website, and we certainly do not deserve that. That is exactly why I told you that I stomp stuff like that word out quick when I see it here.

That “word” is the #1 reason I voted that lack of moderation on this website would be a serious mistake several years ago.

@bobjohn420911

Right on. The worst thing you can do would be to attack a urologist in any way.

I think we are making progress, and it looks to me like more and more urologists are mentioning PVPS. The last thing we need is to be painted as mentally unstable or violent.

The truth is on our side. If you want to make an impact, do it by spreading the truth.

And we need to have zero tolerance for anybody advocating attacking anyone or trying to punish anyone.

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I believe the way to “fight back” is to use their own written words against them.
The clinic that cut me have info of vasectomy on their websites.
What do they say on their website regarding pain?

“Only 1-2% will experience discomfort after the procedure”.
“Very few get long-lasting tenderness”

This provides an “angle of attack”, for a written complaint. The reference for the 1-2% is ofc AUA guidelines. But AUA specifies in their guidelines that 1-2% regards those with “quite severe pain”, that may need medical help. An unbiased observer would say that you can’t translate “severe chronic pain” to “discomfort” or “tenderness”. That could be considered an objective lie. If you want to use the word “discomfort”, the percentage goes up to 15 - 33% - this is all based on the reference articles of AUA guidelines.

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As @bobjohn420911 previously said in another thread - he’s so messed up he cannot organize a much of anything.

My thoughts are - don’t waste your life, time, money, sanity and so on fighting a system that you cannot beat. You should be your first priority @bobjohn420911.

Lots of guys advocate for PVPS awareness, sexual side effects awareness, side effects awareness, etc. I am not trying to detour anyone from such advocacy, but it’s not for everyone. Again, try to get yourself together first. Maybe advocacy second.


I know of very few people that actually won a PVPS lawsuit. I know of many that tried and failed. Such litigations took a multifaceted toll on those men and their families. A member of this site claimed to win such a lawsuit not to long ago, but I don’t know the details. He claimed he would not and did not sign a gag order, but would not talk about his case on the open forum (shrug).


Anyway, @bobjohn420911, you are so young still. Take care of yourself brother and be sure to make yourself priority number one. Don’t let this beat you. You can beat this.

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The question is are doctors being truthful when they claim vasectomies cannot cause any sexual differences for all men, or are they and hospitals ignoring what so many men have reported for decades and decades that it does cause a difference. If doctors are lying then It sure seems almost like a conspiracy to hide the complete truth and I agree with you that this needs to stop within the medical system. AND YOU’RE SO YOUNG and should have the right to sue if your doctor failed to warn you of all the risks that were reported when you have a long life ahead of you.

Its the hospitals and doctors lack of care to inform men or young men that so many men have reported their sexual functioning is not the same as before as if men don’t matter when we do. I believe their lack of care for a man’s sexual pleasure is not only the result of misandry which is a dislike of men treating men as unimportant including our sex lives, its also based on greed to make more money on men’s suffering, is another reason to sue for failing to inclose all the risks.

One of the doctors said to me after I complained im over 65% more sexually worn out than before the surgery, he said, “ITS NOT GOING TO FALL OFF”, yup thats how much a doctor cared about my sexual functioning thats been botched for life.

I hope this might help you and others. The best help I gave myself when I wasn’t seeing a woman I know was to be in a sexual situation for a good 20 minutes, 30 or an hour (watching a dvd or whatever) WITHOUT an erection, then as the penis becomes more and more aroused and w*t without an erection, start slowly and continue slow throughout and the erection should feel better. Some gentle slow touches around the tip area continuously feels WOW. Remember, you’ve been handicapped due to the cuts that can never return to the original state and therefore you can no longer bring it to MAXIMUM anymore as before, so you have to find a different way to function if this helps.

You do have something you can do. Document your story here. Try to be as objective as you can about it and how it has impacted your life without the use of a lot of hyperbole. As tragic and unhelpful as it sounds, by leaving your story here you may help some other guy avoid a similar fate to yours and will be raising awareness in general about the reality of bad/life-altering vasectomy outcomes.

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I agree 100% about the destruction that a vasectomy does to your manhood. What can we do to get attention out to the medics and general public about vasectomy. There must be something we can do.

^Francis,
I googled, “doctors must inclose all risks”, and this showed up,
“Essentially, to establish true informed consent, a physician is now required to disclose all risks that might affect a patient’s treatment decisions.” Had doctors informed all of us of ALL the risks that includes sexual side affects/ differences that men have reported, most of us would of not received a vasectomy and sadly I also never researched the internet because I trusted my doctor.

There are departments in hospitals where anyone can address their concern or complaints about any doctor and even escalate it to a higher department such as the ombudsman of that hospital or other heath care facility if youre not satisfied, and continue to escalate it.

Theres also the College of Physicians where you can also file a complaint against any doctor. In this case the complaint is also against hospitals for allowing doctors to not fully disclose all the risks. All risks should include sexual side effects and sexual differences because it can affect a guy’s mental health and ruin his life and a doctor’s response should not be “no sexual differences for all men after a vasectomy.”

Just by googling, there are complaint departments everywhere including governmental sites that investigate complaints against doctors and hospitals which anyone can file. Here are a just few examples,
How to File a Complaint with the Medical Board

  • Call to have a Complaint Form mailed to you either through the toll-free line (1-800-633-2322) or by calling (916) 263-2424, OR.
  • Use the On-line Complaint Form, OR.
  • Download and Print a Complaint Form.,

Make a Complaint - Ontario Patient Ombudsman, etc.

To achieve best results, it may be best for large organizations against vasectomies to file these complaints against both doctors and hospitals, or individuals as well with or without a lawyer. We are not asking to BAN vasectomies, we are asking for doctors and hospitals to fully disclose ALL possible risks including sexual risks, side affects and sexual differences that all men have reported. Its actually a requirement within the medical system that ALL risks are disclosed with each patient. How doctors get away with this is beyond me and not clear to me at all.

Even Google misleads us with this question, does a vasectomy cause sexual differences: “Vasectomy will not affect your sex life . It does not decrease your sex drive because it does not affect the production of the male hormone testosterone. It also does not affect your ability to get an erection or ejaculate semen.Dec. 1, 2016.”

ANOTHER google, does a vasectomy cause sexual side effects: “Although it’s a low-risk procedure, it’s possible to get infections, chronic pain, and other complications after the vasectomy. However, a vasectomy doesn’t directly cause impotence or affect your sexuality . The body’s process for erections and climaxing is unrelated to the procedure.”