If you need to, show her my posts. I am a woman who felt the same way she does. Every month I was stressed that I was pregnant because I was no longer on the pill due to complications. My husband and I have 2 children and we both agreed we were done.
Although I never gave my husband ultimatums with sex and condoms, I felt the same way she did. As women, we are convinced that this procedure is safe and simple with a super low complication rate. To be honest, I never even looked into the complications because if they existed, surely they couldn’t be that bad. Maybe a little extra swelling or longer pain. Women talk to other women, and in my case my woman GP, and these is some pressure to push it on our husbands as well.
Needless to say I am here because my husband had complications. The regret and guilt is destroying me as I feel like I had a huge role in him getting it in the first place. I take the brunt of the blame for the happening as I never respected what my husband had to say or his concerns. I am currently struggling with depression and seeing a therapist because of the effect this has had on my family (and obviously my husband who is in pain all the time).
You need to be in agreement with this decision as ultimately if something does go wrong, you will be the one dealing with it for the rest of your life not her. You will have resentment and she will most likely have guilt and worst of all, your life will never be the same.
We’ve been to Jarvi for the complications and I’m surprised they are quoting that low of a complication rate. I’ve read up to 15% of men have longer pain and although less than that has chronic pain, there isn’t any magic “cure” that can help you.
If you decide to go ahead with the procedure, just be well informed and go to someone who really knows what they are doing, a reputable urologist. Jarvi does reversals to and ive seen suggestions in the past that if you are going to get a vas done to go to someone who does reversals.
Hope some of this info is helpful.