Where do I begin… First let me say that for every 1 guy that writes on this site … I bet there is 1000 people reading that are too scared or unwilling to take the time to post. Just know that your not alone in your journey.
Back on April 7th, 2017 I had a vasectomy. Like most on here, and as a 41 year old father of two, I felt that it was the right time to get my wife off drugs and come up with a more permanent solution for birth control. After speaking with many friends and family members whom have had the process successfully and MUCH urging from my wife I decided to take the plunge… Wrong decision !
Here is what I felt after Vasectomy with timeline:
1.) Operation itself was easy, 15 min in and out with Dr. Hausladen in Dartmouth Ma. was a very nice , calm surgeon so I was feeling happy about my decision and sent friends photos of bouncing balls ect ect. I had a single incision and was burned as well as metal clamped on each side. (they no longer tie off in my area) … complete overkill if you ask me , but that was my only option.
2.) Was told by Dr. Hausladen I would be laid up for 3-5 days with minor discomfort. (which from what I felt at that time seemed like I was on tract). I iced regularly, took only one day of Oxycodone and then switched to Advil to bring swelling down /pain relief. On day 3 I noticed the left side “chord” swelled up like a little stick inside of my balls (only way I can explain it). It was painful to the touch , but doctor said not to worry.
3.) Week 2 - Wasn’t getting any better and felt like either side of my scrotum was clamped off with close line clips! I also felt a weird sensation as if the left side of my penis tip was numb/burning before and after urination… almost like i was peeing out of one side only… it was a very WEIRD / PAINFULL sensation… I continued to ice down regularly and now was put on Cipro (Antibiotic) . I was told by Dr. Hausladen that I most likely have an infection. I will tell you that by this time I was already feeling like I got sold a bill of goods and had been lied to. None the less I followed doctors orders and stayed on Advil and the Cipro.
4.) Week 3 - Most important for me at this point ? Will my penis still work the same ??? No one says that on this site here… but for me it was VERY important. I spent most of that week attempting to masterbate / get my body back to old self… but to no avail. For a guy whom enjoyed masterbating or having sex with wife every few days… Orgasims were less than eventfull and felt akward / not satisfying… Its like you get NO real release. Testicles started to become what I would refer to as a “UNI -BALL”. They no longer hung down individually, looked and felt like I had one solid ball. Still had urination issues and tons of burning at the chord. Doctors will try and tell you that its all in your head… I will tell you with complete certainty it is NOT… You have changed your body and this IS a problem…
5.) End of Month 1 - Panic setting in… By this time I was on a multitude of different drugs prescribed by the Doctor that did my vasectomy. I had done 3 straight weeks of Cipro (antibiotic), was taking tons of advil for swelling and pain and now was put on FLOWMAX (Tamsulosin) for the burning and urinary problems. Nothing worked…
6.) Month 2- Spent most of this month with regret and crying about my decision. I would find myself pacing the hallways at night after the kids and wife went to bed. I had trouble concentrating at work and found myself feeling very SAD inside. The only way I can describe the feeling is that I felt like I was dying from the inside out. As crazy as that sounds that’s the best way to describe it. As a private pilot I loved to fly (helicopters), now I found myself pulling off into the parking lot near the airport and cry… no flying, no urge to do anything.
7.) Month 3- Drugs Drugs and more drugs… that was my doctors answer to my problem. he now added MENTAL drugs to the picture which were suppose to calm my nerves and allow my body to adjust to the operation. BULLSH @T! He started me with Gabapentin and then Amitriptyline. I will tell you that by this point I had had enough and was already searching for a WAY OUT!
8.) Months 4-7 - This was a very tough time in my life. I started noticing that my penis was actually getting THINNER! doctors can say what they want but I KNOW MY BODY. Are they trying to tell me that after 41 years (28 of them spent masterbating or having sex) that I don’t know what my penis looks and feels like ? At this point I still didnt have a normal orgasim… My penis felt smaller/ thinner (i’m assuming it has something to do with the blood supply for the spermatic chord itself, and the orgasim hasd about 20% of its old fluid and smelt different as well (wife noticed that one)… I spent these months doing the best I could to have “life as usual”. I attempted to do some house projects, spend time with kids, had sex regularly with wife… ect ect. but didn’t feel right. Again that “dying on the inside” feeling constantly.
9.) Month 8 - REVERSAL… After much research I decide to take money out of my 401k and go see a microsurgeon. Dr. Robert Oates. http://www.robertoatesmd.com/about.html. BEST $8,000 I ever spent… If your looking for a sympathetic doctor to hold your hand and cry with you… this is NOT the guy. That being said … If your looking for the BEST fellowship trained doctor on the East Coast… this IS your guy. He was very informative and HONEST explaining to me that its a 50/50 shot for pain and actually suggested “nerve blocks” and other avenues first… But there was NO swaying my personal decision… I needed to do the only thing in my heart that felt right, get my body as close to normal as possible (win or loose).
10.) Reversal Day - I remember Dr. Oates saying to me as his staff was taking my blood pressure… “I’ve never seen a patient so calm”… I laughed and replied “I’ve been in pain for 8 months Doc, I can only get better or stay the same”. At that point A young medical student (its a training hospital) came up to me to sign a specific waiver that stated there is NO PROOF a reversal will heal my pain. I took a deep breath, signed and immediately felt better! Off to the surgery room they took me. Last thing I remember I was in a large room with 1-15 med students standing up high in a glass sort of classroom… It felt like I was in an episode of “Grey’s Anatomy”. I said “doc I dont think your drugs are working you may need something stronger to knock me out…” he laughed as I looked at the clock 9:10am… Then my eyes opened, I was in a different room 2:30pm and my crotch was packed with Ice! LMAO
11.) First 5 minutes… Already relief… can you believe it. I can barely move and I already knew I had made the right decision… I wanted to cry. No more CLIP feeling on either side of my tesitcles. I sat in the room and they gave me some juice / food and had me sign the forms for my release…
12.) Ride home - Tough Tough Tough… My father whom brought me to the hospital drove the 2 hours through rush hour stop and go traffic. Had to help me in and out of the car. Ride seemed like it took forever and I just wanted a bed and sleep.
13.) Week 1 POST REVERSAL - I went on a steady diet of eggs and fruit in the morning along with 4000 MG of VIt C and D (read somewhere it helps with the scaring). Stayed in bed, was sin good spirits and rested a lot.
14.) All of month 1 POST REVERSAL - Lots of ups and down. One day you fell great next day , not so much… I will say however what little pain I was feeling was DIFFERENT and manageable, unlike before. the stitches were basically 1 inch long on either side… I remember laughing with y wife one night that I now had “Frankenballs”… It look gruesome and bleed A LOT! Also it felt like some of the stitches were actually ATTACHED to my ball. making me feel like something was wrong… I will tell you now IT NOT… its just your body healing. Also it felt like my balls had a “face life” they were sitting a bit higher than normal… I will tell you that this also passes with time. (at least for me).
15.) Past 9 months… Every day month is better than the last. I still have an occasional day or two with what I would describe as Awkward sensations / burning… but it is 5%-10% of the pain I use to feel and completely manageable. I have MANY days now where I don’t even think about it. Sex feels great… Orgasims are back to normal and my penis size is also back to normal.
I’m VERY GLAD I didn’t wait to make this decision… I feel that because I listened to my body and my heart and NOBODY ELSE I was able to get put back together and heal before severe irreversible damage could occur. My 2 cents…
I wish anyone on here going through similar issues luck… and for as long as the universe allows me to feel healthy and well I will appreciate each day!