Reading the stories here, I would say my pain levels are not as debilitating as many of my “brothers in pain” experience. However, the vasectomy 15 years ago has significantly impacted my life: Aching and pulling daily, ibuprofen helps take the edge off but I pay a more severe price with any activity beyond walking. At 46 years old I piss like an old man with weaker urine flow and dribble, dribble in my pants seemingly no matter how long I try to squeeze out the last drops. The daily pain wears me down, but the sexual side effects are what bother me the most. Orgasms are weak with no sense of release and they trigger a bout of achy pain which lasts a day or so.
14 years ago, when I was about one year post-vasectomy I had a non-helpful exam and consult with a local urologist (the guy who did my vasectomy was no longer practicing) . The urologist was rather dismissive, basically implied any pain and other issues were either in my head or not that bad and he warned a reversal would likely make things worse. He put me on an antidepressant and sent me on my way. At that point I resigned myself to my current state.
Fast forward to last year, after lurking on this forum for a long time reading some of the good outcomes I finally decided the risks of a reversal making things worse, as well as the significant expense, is worth the possibility of getting my life back.
So in October, 2018 I took the advice many gave here to call ICVR in Tucson. Before the consult their coordinator told me Dr Marks does not work on pain patients anymore. But he and I had a great conversation and he agreed to do my reversal. I think it helped that I am from Maine where he often enjoyed visits in summers past.
The thought of nerve stripping and other treatments of that kind are scary to me. And mentally, I just want to be made whole again. I know there is no guarantee with reversal, and it could make things worse, but I feel like I need to try. It seems Dr Marks is among the best, and offers a shot at a decent outcome.
Tomorrow morning, January 7th at 7:00 AM I go back under the knife to hopefully put myself back together. If I can get some reduction of pain and return to 80% pre-vas sexually I will consider the money well spent.
I will try to post regular updates as I recover because I found that helpful when reading other’s stories here. If my posts help nobody else, then at least it might help me process.