I had severe PVP pain for a long time after my vasectomy, got a reversal (5 months after), and tried every medical procedure and pill that has ever been discussed on this site. My symptoms just kept getting worse (and spread to many other parts of my body) and I was off of work for months, couldn’t sleep, and had suicidal thoughts. When I was off work and recovering from my reversal surgery, I started reading books about the mind-body connection and went to see a therapist that concentrates in mindfulness and anxiety. I went into an intensive outpatient program for Anxiety and learned a number of new tools. I then read every book I could possibly find on controlling and reducing anxiety. Very slowly, with lots of ups and downs, as I got my anxiety and panic attacks under control, the pain associated with PVP slowly started to disappear as well. My body became less tense overall as I used techniques to calm the body and mind. It took a long time and lots of hard work practicing mindfulness tools, meditation, body scan meditations, simplifying my life, yoga, etc. but about 72 weeks after first learning about anxiety tools and the mind-body connection in general, I can say I am cured of all PVP pain both in the original spot and elsewhere in my body. I am happier and healthier than ever with a new perspective on life.
Anxiety creates different physical symptoms in different people. For guys like us, it just so happened to take over right after our vasectomies. While the surgery seemed to push my body into a viscous downward cycle, the symptoms got worse and worse as I read posts on this site and elsewhere about pain syndromes. The anxiety got worse and so did my physical symptoms. As I started to avoid things so as to not feel pain, the pain got worse or more likely the anxiety around feeling pain got worse and made things spiral further. You must face the pain and turn towards the pain to truly get past it. Likewise, you must face the anxiety/fear to truly overcome it. It just takes a long damn time to do it and you have to be persistently patient.
I know it is hard to believe that such great physical pain can be caused by anxiety or thoughts/emotions, but that is the reality. Once you become more self aware of your thoughts and emotions and how tied they are to the variety of physical sensation patterns you feel, then you are on your way to understanding it much better. I strongly suggest the following steps to anyone who is experiencing PVP symptoms:
- Stop going to medical doctors or taking pills. They just feed into the anxiety and in many cases make it worse. Those that were cured by a reversal were actually cured by their reduction in anxiety due to having the reversal and “fixing” things.
- See a therapist that specializes in anxiety. Get over your fear/stigma there - it is not like you see on TV. More people deal with it than anyone realizes.
- Download the phone app called Insight Timer. Start doing the meditations on there at least an hour a day. Do the body scan and sitting meditations the most. You need to train you mind to be in the present and calm. A calm mind leads to a calm body. Once your mind/body are calm, then the pain patterns reduce over time.
Watch your patterns when you notice the pain creeping in. What thoughts are running through your head where do you feel the pain specifically. Track your thoughts and pain patterns on a piece of paper but don’t react to them. Just record your thoughts and observe.
- Read about Mindfulness and try as many Mindfulness tools as you can.
- Read the book The Tapping Solution. They give tools in there for working with pain and give examples of pain disappearing in people as they get their thoughts under control.
- Read about the Gupta Amygdala retraining program and buy it if you so desire. Chronic fatigue and chronic pain syndromes are very similar.
- Eat healthier: get rid of soda, processed sugar, etc. Anything that is going to mess with your nervous system.
- Do yoga. Very calming to the mind and body.
- Act opposite to action urge. If you have an urge to avoid going for a run because you are afraid it might cause more pain, go against that urge. It may not happen right away, but over time you will see that the pain gets less and that fear urge lessens.
- Accept where you are and know that things will get better. Be optimistic and stop reading negative posts on this site or elsewhere.
- Face fear again and again.
- Reduce stressful events in your life.
- Read the book Get Out of You Head and Into Your Life. Great tools for dealing with emotional/mental patterns. I highly recommend it.
- Read John Sarno books like Healing Back Pain and how many people like Howard Stern were cured of chronic pain by getting their emotional patterns (OCD in Howard’s case) under control.
- Concentration mind exercises to stay in the present moment. The mind likes to go to the future or the past over and over. The more you can stay in the present, the more calm things will be and the more you will interrupt those persistent pain patterns.
Again, I realize people will think I am way off base here as they are feeling so much physical pain. They will say how can medical doctors not get this and how could I possibly be in this much pain from thoughts and emotions. But, when you reach the end of your rope, then what is there to lose by not trying some of things I suggest. You might just end up with your life back and a hell of a story about how you overcame a nightmare of a pain syndrome. I am proof that there is hope and that you can have great health once again no matter how bad you think things are right now. I had it as bad as anyone I ever read about on this site and now I am completely healthy.