My name is Eric (28), I underwent my vasectomy by Anthony Shaheen in Monterey, CA September 27, 2018. My reasons were that I have had too many medical issues for me to want to bring someone into this world. I had also had some Jerry Springer moments in my life where women have tried to have my children without my consent. The PTSD and medical history justified my want for a more permanent safety measure in birth control. My health issues are tied to herniated discs in my L5-S1 & L4-L5. As well as a diagnosed schizo-affective bipolar disorder. Please keep those in mind, I don’t believe in my schizo diagnosis but I don’t think that should be left out of my report. I think I’m particularly sensitive and have trauma that can’t be explained by the average Veteran’s Affairs doctors. I served in the Air Force for 6 years.
My vasectomy procedure was on a med exam table. Local numbing was the only tool. Unfortunately I felt just about everything. I proceeded to sweat myself to the point I was cold, clammy, and shivering. I assume the procedure went correctly. The doc was confident, didn’t leave any notes saying otherwise. My scrotum was as dark blue and purple as one could get. I will assume the healing went according to plan. I don’t remember anything that stands out as terrible. No infection.
After 2 weeks I began to masturbate as it has been a ritual of mine to get my mind off of women I am thinking about in the current timeframe. Not only was it more difficult to get to satisfaction, I felt less sensitive. I couldn’t stay as hard without really thinking about it. The second I stopped to give my arm a break I would quickly go limp. This is nothing like prior to surgery. Once I have given myself a marathon of a work out I could ejaculate, but it was definitely difficult. Difficult and very disappointing. No satiation mentally whatsoever. I felt so robbed. Hoping it would go away in time. Fortunately not much pain other than from healing. I feel so bad for those experiencing pain.
3 weeks in I start dating my current girlfriend. Sex with her is out of this world, she makes me so comfortable to be in my own skin. A great factor in determining what is wrong with me. It was so difficult for her to get me to cum that she thought it was her. I knew it wasn’t as I haven’t had difficulty like this with anyone in my life. It was too sudden of a change to attribute it to my 28 years of age (getting old). So, sex hasn’t really been fun for me. I talk about it like it is similar to a work out, that is more fun because of the little bit of sensation I have. Though, it didn’t make me crave it or pounce on my partner like it once did for me. I definitely had to step up my game in showing my sexual interest for my girlfriend so that she received what she needed from me, even if I wasn’t feeling it. I love her like no one before. After sex multiple times within a day, sometimes once every day, I would get congested and have pain. Leading to me not being able to ejaculate at all if I wanted to keep going. Which I didn’t other than for my girlfriend. We decided to take breaks.
During sex I couldn’t stay rock hard for the longest time. Slowly after practice, and focusing on pushing blood down there I could definitely make it happen. I couldn’t say it was easy. I would slowly gain back my ability to have stronger streams of fluid. None of which satiated the mental high following ejaculation. It was all a disappointment, but at least I could perform for my girlfriend.
Most of the benefit, I think, came from physical therapy straightening out my back. Along with tons of acupuncture. I have more sensation in my shaft where I didn’t before. I also had a steroid shot in my L5-S1. All have really helped my overall well being. At one point I had a cane because the motor function in my right leg left it paralyzed/ in sharp shooting pain.
All of those issues seem to be completely alleviated. Except for one last thing. My orgasms. They still remain bland and disappointing. I finally decided after about 8 months that my orgasms were not going to get better, and that reversal was the best option. The VA referred my to Dr. Eisenberg at Stanford Medical here in Silicon Valley in California. His team has been amazing.
My bilateral surgery was yesterday August 23rd, I plan on reporting my healing process here. I want to thank all who have posted here, be it a little different than my experience… But knowing I wasn’t going crazy and this is real definitely helps. I’m not the best writer, but hopefully this helps someone!
August 23rd: Surgery went much more smooth than I had ever anticipated. The team at Standford is not joke. I have never seen such a nice team of people who are so sharp and so happy to help. They put me under anaesthetic about 10am and finished the surgery about 12:00pm. I came to just fine, not in any severe pain. Definitely feeling like I shouldn’t move. They said I couldn’t leave until I peed. They gave me a receptacle to do so. I had to really focus, but I managed to get something like .52L out of me. They gave me a 5mg oxycontin for the ride home, which helped. I thought the road home would be more difficult (bumpy ride) but it wasn’t bad. I had myself in bed for the rest of the evening. Icing my balls 20 min on, 20 off about 3 times. My girlfriend kind enough to take care of me took care of everything except going to the bathroom. Going to the bathroom has been hard with the gauze and jock strap, but I’ll wait until Sunday til I shower, clean it up and go back to wearing some thong underwear. Emotionally, I definitely feel slightly more “whole” again. Which is weird, but I do have a good feeling about this. I have been holding back any excitement until I see results. I noticed myself getting hard yesterday just for kissing my girlfriend. That hasn’t happened in awhile.
Will add more as the days/ weeks go on. Best of luck to the community out there. Sending out my positive energy that things get easier for all of us.