Post Vasectomy Pain Forum

One year since my Vas, yesterday was my reversal

Surgical Therapies
#1

Hi all,

My name is Eric (28), I underwent my vasectomy by Anthony Shaheen in Monterey, CA September 27, 2018. My reasons were that I have had too many medical issues for me to want to bring someone into this world. I had also had some Jerry Springer moments in my life where women have tried to have my children without my consent. The PTSD and medical history justified my want for a more permanent safety measure in birth control. My health issues are tied to herniated discs in my L5-S1 & L4-L5. As well as a diagnosed schizo-affective bipolar disorder. Please keep those in mind, I don’t believe in my schizo diagnosis but I don’t think that should be left out of my report. I think I’m particularly sensitive and have trauma that can’t be explained by the average Veteran’s Affairs doctors. I served in the Air Force for 6 years.

My vasectomy procedure was on a med exam table. Local numbing was the only tool. Unfortunately I felt just about everything. I proceeded to sweat myself to the point I was cold, clammy, and shivering. I assume the procedure went correctly. The doc was confident, didn’t leave any notes saying otherwise. My scrotum was as dark blue and purple as one could get. I will assume the healing went according to plan. I don’t remember anything that stands out as terrible. No infection.

After 2 weeks I began to masturbate as it has been a ritual of mine to get my mind off of women I am thinking about in the current timeframe. Not only was it more difficult to get to satisfaction, I felt less sensitive. I couldn’t stay as hard without really thinking about it. The second I stopped to give my arm a break I would quickly go limp. This is nothing like prior to surgery. Once I have given myself a marathon of a work out I could ejaculate, but it was definitely difficult. Difficult and very disappointing. No satiation mentally whatsoever. I felt so robbed. Hoping it would go away in time. Fortunately not much pain other than from healing. I feel so bad for those experiencing pain.

3 weeks in I start dating my current girlfriend. Sex with her is out of this world, she makes me so comfortable to be in my own skin. A great factor in determining what is wrong with me. It was so difficult for her to get me to cum that she thought it was her. I knew it wasn’t as I haven’t had difficulty like this with anyone in my life. It was too sudden of a change to attribute it to my 28 years of age (getting old). So, sex hasn’t really been fun for me. I talk about it like it is similar to a work out, that is more fun because of the little bit of sensation I have. Though, it didn’t make me crave it or pounce on my partner like it once did for me. I definitely had to step up my game in showing my sexual interest for my girlfriend so that she received what she needed from me, even if I wasn’t feeling it. I love her like no one before. After sex multiple times within a day, sometimes once every day, I would get congested and have pain. Leading to me not being able to ejaculate at all if I wanted to keep going. Which I didn’t other than for my girlfriend. We decided to take breaks.

During sex I couldn’t stay rock hard for the longest time. Slowly after practice, and focusing on pushing blood down there I could definitely make it happen. I couldn’t say it was easy. I would slowly gain back my ability to have stronger streams of fluid. None of which satiated the mental high following ejaculation. It was all a disappointment, but at least I could perform for my girlfriend.

Most of the benefit, I think, came from physical therapy straightening out my back. Along with tons of acupuncture. I have more sensation in my shaft where I didn’t before. I also had a steroid shot in my L5-S1. All have really helped my overall well being. At one point I had a cane because the motor function in my right leg left it paralyzed/ in sharp shooting pain.

All of those issues seem to be completely alleviated. Except for one last thing. My orgasms. They still remain bland and disappointing. I finally decided after about 8 months that my orgasms were not going to get better, and that reversal was the best option. The VA referred my to Dr. Eisenberg at Stanford Medical here in Silicon Valley in California. His team has been amazing.

My bilateral surgery was yesterday August 23rd, I plan on reporting my healing process here. I want to thank all who have posted here, be it a little different than my experience… But knowing I wasn’t going crazy and this is real definitely helps. I’m not the best writer, but hopefully this helps someone!

August 23rd: Surgery went much more smooth than I had ever anticipated. The team at Standford is not joke. I have never seen such a nice team of people who are so sharp and so happy to help. They put me under anaesthetic about 10am and finished the surgery about 12:00pm. I came to just fine, not in any severe pain. Definitely feeling like I shouldn’t move. They said I couldn’t leave until I peed. They gave me a receptacle to do so. I had to really focus, but I managed to get something like .52L out of me. They gave me a 5mg oxycontin for the ride home, which helped. I thought the road home would be more difficult (bumpy ride) but it wasn’t bad. I had myself in bed for the rest of the evening. Icing my balls 20 min on, 20 off about 3 times. My girlfriend kind enough to take care of me took care of everything except going to the bathroom. Going to the bathroom has been hard with the gauze and jock strap, but I’ll wait until Sunday til I shower, clean it up and go back to wearing some thong underwear. Emotionally, I definitely feel slightly more “whole” again. Which is weird, but I do have a good feeling about this. I have been holding back any excitement until I see results. I noticed myself getting hard yesterday just for kissing my girlfriend. That hasn’t happened in awhile.

Will add more as the days/ weeks go on. Best of luck to the community out there. Sending out my positive energy that things get easier for all of us.

  • Eric
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#2

It is now day 10.

September 2nd: So far the healing process is more difficult than I had imagined. It’s just awkward to have something so sore between your legs. The incisions are on the sides now so the rubbing factor isnt fun. I find mens thong underwear to be my best friend. The jock strap given to me was really uncomfortable. It really keeps the nuts high up and out from between the legs. The sutures still rub a bit and its uncomfortable. But better than letting them loose.

The first week i had completed icing on and off every 20-30 minutes up to 10 times a day. The discomfort keeps my sex drive down. I want to have sex but definitely feel okay waiting.

Healing is going well. Incision sites are clean and free of dried blood. The sutures are almost dissolved.

Hopefully ill have more information to report soon! Definitely aiming to see how I feel Friday ( the two week mark) for sex with the girlfriend. Hopefully I can last longer, but I’m not confident I can hold longer if I feel healed.

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#3

Forget about sex for a couple of weeks at least, you really don’t want to jeopardise such a delicate operation at this stage. I was still very sore 3 months post reversal, certainly didn’t feel like having sex at that time

#4

You took on the risk of a reversal for better orgasms ?

#5

Exclusively. They have been a major part in my life since a teenager. Have nothing been but a fragment of previous. They we’re literally worth undergoing being cut open, yet again, for.

#6

Thanks for the heads up. I kinda feel that way, but doctors have all stated two weeks. I will give myself more time if I don’t feel right. But I’ve read multiple reports where men do feel okay two weeks or earlier and have been fine with it. Thanks for the response!

#7

I was extremely gentle, without full sex, and was fine

#8

Fair enough, was just curious. We all have our own reasons. Mine is pain as of now, but I definitely don’t like how things feel/hang either, it’s all kind of creepy being modified/butchered up.

Do you notice if things look more like they did? Or was that not a issue for you. My balls now look old, hang way lower and are bloated/congested, feel like they don’t fit my body. Even if I get better pain wise I can’t imagine playing sports like this.

#9

Great question! After my vasectomy my balls hung different, much lower and had what I think is tubes floating around in there that bunched up weird. Now it seems secure, but there is definitely a lump on both sides in tandem to the testicle.

I feel awful for the brothers in pain. I had pain in the initial 3 months. Not as bad as anyone else’s awful ssymptoms. I am sorry you are in pain, that has to be the better reason for reversal. Though this orgasm thing I haven’t seen explained by anyone but myself. It’s sex torture, masturbation torture. Im too sexual for that, I have to try to get it back. Im 28, I should heal well. No guarantees, but it was worth it already to try.

#10

September 10th, 2019:

I almost feel healed. The bits definitely feel like they hang differently now. Its interesting to feel like I have to learn how to walk a certain way now. Im sure they will adjust in time. My girlfriend and I had sex on Friday exactly 2 weeks after my surgery. Took it nice and easy, and things went rather well. I had very very little pain as the orgasm was coming to fruition. Since then Ive had sex 3 times and every time after has had 0 amount of pain. This, again, is taking it easy. Not taking my girl to pound town or anything.

My orgasms are not back to what they were, but they are definitely different compared to the disconnected “me”. In a good way. I feel that with some healing my orgasms may come back to normal. There is no longer any feeling of congestion. No feelings of pain. Mine were minor compared to most guys on here.

Overall Im happy with the reversal at this point. Ill be sure to check up on here soon.

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#11

Hi @Eric_Greatwood
That seemed to be a very fast recovery. How are you feeling now? Any set backs?

#12

September 16, 2019: Not really any setbacks! I do highly recommend CBD honey/ wax/ vaseline rub for the bits around the incision locations and between the scrotum and leg. It helps with chaffing/ stretching and pulling. The scar tissue has built up pretty thick. Which is slightly painful. Sex still doesn’t feel right, it has encouraged me to give it an extra break.

My girlfriend and I use amil nitrate (poppers) to loosen me up and make me more sensitive. It also allows blood vessels to open. Which is making it a much more smooth transition into ejaculation again.

Yes I feel my healing was relatively quick. Especially compared to others. I did religious 20 minutes on 20 minutes off ice for about 1.5 weeks. I’m now comfortable enough to do a light jog, though I don’t unless I have to.

I’m pretty close to be back to my old every day mobile and functional self. Other than the sensation of being fully healed in regards to sex.

#13

My husband had a vasectomy about a month ago and has just told me that he has no sensation during orgasms. When he
masturbate he feels nothing. When we have sex he feels a little more but explains it as feeling disconnected and not full. I am absolutely devastated. I want him to have a reversal as soon as possible. I do not want this to be something taken away from him. Can you please keep me posted on how you are recovering? Are the orgasms getting back to normal?

#14

Hey there Jillianwife,

Right now things are physically healing very well, some stitches are still visible. Some soreness is still there, but overall I’m doing well. Unfortunately I cannot say for certain that the reversal can help 100% as I do have some other medical issues such as depression and two herniated discs.

I had the same feelings you described after my vasectomy. I didn’t feel recovered for about 6 months, and at that didn’t feel my orgasms were up to par. Definitely empty, did not receive the “reward” signals to my brain. Did not have the feeling that I had sex. Just felt like a work out.

Since then my orgasms do feel better, albeit not a ton, but Ill take what I can get. The pressure from ejaculation has gotten much better. Sensation comes and goes. Some days better than others. I am still using amil nitrate (poppers) to get by with better and more fulfilling orgasms. I do feel a bit relaxed after sex, the reward system is doing better than before but not back to normal.

I am not at 100% but I do consider the reversal a success.

Please keep me up to date with your husband, Ill send in some more updates!

#15

Eric, I had my vasectomy on Aug 26 and am thinking of reversal. Not only am I in pain, but I feel like sex will never be the same as long as I am snipped. Hell, I would rather never have sex again even if I could just feel the way I used to, I would be content.

How long did they tell you to wait after the reversal to ejuculate? How often after that are you supposed to? I heard every day for the next year. You said you feel like that pressures gone now?

That’s the worst part. Well the ball crushing pain is the worst part. But also I feel like although I ejuculate that I didn’t even get off, so that “I need to get off” feeling doesnt go away but at the same time it hurts. Awful; I’d rather be castrated than feel this way. I’m giving it 6 months but if I’m not feeling managble by then I’m going with a reversal and if I’m not better after that I guess I’m screwed.

#16

Tyler,

Sorry to hear you are dealing with these issues, I truly feel for you. Yes the pressure is gone since the reversal. Though I did not have as much pain as everyone did. After my vasectomy I never felt the satisfaction I used to have of ejaculation. And if I had ejaculated twice in two days I could feel a build up of pressure. I essentially couldn’t ejaculate a third time if that was the case, even if I tried.

After reversal I waited 2 weeks as some doctors said two weeks some say 3 weeks. I would wait 3 weeks if I had the chance to do it over. 2 weeks you just aren’t healed and your body will fear ejaculation. So it’s not even fun. It was around the 1 month marker that it felt somewhat safe.

Overall I don’t feel as I used to at this point, but ejaculation does feel better and I don’t feel pressure anymore. I am also pretty depressed about this whole thing and am happy I have a sliver of recovery post reversal. So I really am over trying to make the old orgasms come back, Ive been very non-sexual lately.

Your vasectomy hasn’t had much time to heal, I hope your pain subsides soon. I would wait definitely 6 months before reversal unless you are experiencing excruciating pain. That of course is up to you, but I have seen stories of people’s pain dying down.

Best of luck to you in your healing.

#17

Thanks Eric. At this rate I’d probably consider a reversal just to try to get the feeling back like you said, even if the pain goes away. The pressure is maddening by its self.

Such bs, I can’t belive some people say they feel just the same after this. It does suck having to try just to get back to normal, since all this was elective. What a trap. I feel very betrayed.

#18

Completely understandable. I just know the surgery is about 10k for a reputable doctor. I was fortunate enough to have my military VA coverage handle it. Yes I feel betrayed also, there aren’t enough warnings out there about these types of risks. I didn’t find anyone with symptoms like mine until I found this site post surgery.

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#19

Yes I feel betrayed also, there aren’t enough warnings out there about these types of risks

The first time most guys hear the phrase “Post Vasectomy Pain Syndrome” is AFTER they already had a vasectomy and the pain isn’t going away. That is madness. The urologists have known for more than 30 years now. There should be a dedicated sheet of paper in the consent paperwork, with a signature all by itself at the bottom saying “I realize that by having a vasectomy, I may end up with Post Vasectomy Pain Syndrome, or genital pain that never goes away.”

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#20

I’m active duty too, but I’m torn because there is what seems to be a good private Reversal Dr in my area, but even if my military coverage covers a reversal, they will probdbly try to send me to a sub par chop shop. I’d rather pay out of pocket and know it’s done right to increase my chances.