I just wanted to add to the huge amount of posts on here. I am so angry that I was basically lied to and just how much this has affected me. By lied to I mean prior to the vasectomy. I was told virtually no pain in the operation and just 1 in a 1000 people have long term problems, -and even if that’s you don’t worry because a few pain killers normally cure it. Well that was utter rubbish as we all know. And the affect it has had on me is drastic. Again as we all know it is life changing. There are times I have wanted to end it all - I have been very depressed and think that this will never end.
My story is this - I had a vasectomy , hesitantly as I had read that there could be problems but was swayed by all the happy smiley ads and pro people. The procedure was VERY painful so much so that I was injected with painkiller 3 times.
After I was very very sore , as I thought I might be and told myself that this was normal. Initially I had 3 types of pain. I had the usual pain around the area that had been cut , which is to be expected I guess. The 2nd pain was excruciating very sharp stabbing pain in my left testicle and side down the leg -which occurred about 100 times a day and then there was the horrible dull aching underneath the testicles that was there continuously.
The surgery pain went after about 2/3 weeks. Ive had surgery before and this felt fairly normal to me. The sharp stabbing pain slowly improved. Now , after 6 months it is about once a day. I have been checked by 2 urologists and was told that this was nerve pain.
However , the dull ache that slowly gets worse throughout the day is still the same. I followed the same medical route that others have described here in the UK. Referrals by my GP. Follow up with the doctor who performed the op. Then a urologist, a scan (told there was nothing wrong) another urologist and finally a few days ago a ‘pain specialist’ who told me it seems to be the muscle under my scrotum and that I should exercise it with pelvic contractions. Ive been doing that but so far no success. Im not holding my breath on this one.
Has anyone had any success with this ?
Of course I have also been given pain killers - now on amitriptyline -50mg for nerve pain and depression. Told I should take gabapentin regularly - (reluctant as I have been on it before and have side affects. Whilst on the subject of pain killers I have tried pregabalin , co drydromol, codeine phosphate, anti inflammatory and paracetamol and found none of them work and that the side affects vary from mild (paracetamol) to extreme (sick, nausea, cant breath properly etc ) )
The only relief I get from the pain is sitting on the edge of a seat and very hot baths but as many have said before its only a very temporary relief.
I cannot walk for long without stopping, same when standing. Driving is horrible. Getting dressed, washing, bending, resting etc etc etc Basically it affects everything I do. I feel like I have aged 40 years and have the health of an old man.
My sex life is shit. Prior it was about 2-3 times a week - since the op. its about once a month - and its not the same at all. I ejaculate less - the feeling is different - everything takes longer like I just cant reach that point of ejaculation as quickly and when it does arrive it can go away again very quickly - so no more wait a few more seconds to prolong it and then continue for a bit and then carry on - you know what I mean - if I leave it a few seconds then its like 5 minutes later to get anywhere near to what it was and sometimes it just goes away altogether. And if and when I do ejaculate its all a bit of a non event - like orgasm is just sort of all over and a bit of a relief and then its even more painful for the next few days. Ive tried masturbating but usually too painful and most of the time I just don’t want to. Also I feel ‘full’ all the time. No relief like before where after no sex for a few days I actually felt like I needed to have sex to empty myself and then after sex I actually felt like my balls had emptied - now I just feel full all the time.
My thoughts of sex are also now infrequent. Used to be every day and for many times throughout a day - I always thought I was sex driven actually but since the op. its almost never. I honestly feel like a different person. I am so different . I am very depressed and think this will last for ever. That sex will never be the same. That my marriage is ruined. We both thought this op . would help us - turns out its destroying us.
The painkillers don’t work, the exercises don’t work. I have virtually no sex drive and almost no sex. I truthfully feel terrible. I cry a lot. I feel useless and at times wish I was dead.
I feel so cheated - lied to and duped into going ahead with this op. By far this is the worst thing I have ever done and so far it is life changing. I cannot imagine living with this long term.
In the mean time I continue to take drugs that don’t work and attend a pain clinic just in case its in my head. Apparently in a year I could maybe have a reversal on the NHS but the last thing I want is to let them anywhere near me.
Sorry for such a bad post.