My pain was all over the board after my initial vasectomy on 1 November 2019, ranging from a 3 to a 10 for six to eight weeks. I was devastated by level 10 pain about ten to twelve times in the first two months that lasted an hour to an hour and a half per spasm of pain. To put things in perspective, level 10 pain to me means I am a 42 year old grown man not just crying, but wailing and balling uncontrollably as I call my wife as she does her shopping around town or call my grown mom 3,000 miles away in desperation, or as I desperately group text the maximum number of 20 people my iPhone will allow at one time to plead for prayers and fasting in my behalf as I am in utter crisis.
Level 2 or below is pain I can survive at mentally and physically for quite some time, perhaps even forever.
Mid-level pains of 3 to 5 with stabbing pains of 6 to 7 are tolerable for a day here or there, but wear me down mentally after about five days and result in a mental and emotional breakdown similar to that brought on by instantaneous level 8 to 10 pain.
Two variables appeared to drop my pain experience to a 1 or below up to a 5, maybe a 7 at the most: Gabapentin and abstinence from sex. I was riveted by pain while engaging in sexual relations with my spouse 20 times in six weeks prior to producing a clean sample and deeming the vasectomy a “success.” Not until my 14 January 2020 appointment with the urology specialist who specializes in reversals do I learn that the prime candidate for a reversal is he who experiences pain in connection with sexual activity. I abstain from sex for 10 days to test a new theory and experience level .25 pain for just as many days. I experiment with my wife three times; 48 hours later I am brought into prolonged 4 to 6 pain that broke me after five days. I almost abstain again until my reversal on 27 February 2020 and pain levels drop once again to .25 or .5 consistently.
Doubling Gabapentin to 1200 milligrams thee times daily after a 5 February 2020 visit to the pain clinic brought on level .25 or .5 pain, even with one or two instances of sexual intercourse that were spontaneous and unplanned, if not even against all plans, and that I was willing to stupidly sacrifice would bring on pain, but shockingly didn’t. However, the Gabapentin spiked many unwanted mental side effects that were as intolerable mentally as the pain was physically and I am now tapering off that as we speak, taking only 300 milligrams three times a day and hope to be off by 20 March 2020.
As mentioned previously, I went through with the reversal surgery on 27 February 2020, 119 days after my original vasectomy. I am on day 16 of my reversal recovery having mixed results. Pain is below a one if I lay low, up to a 4 if I work full days sitting and standing and walking some with fractional seconds of pinching, stabbing, piercing pain like I am being stabbed with needles beneath the scrotum or the vas deferens feel like they might still be tied up in knot.
You asked for it. There you have it.
P.S. This forum is perhaps one of the few safe havens on planet earth where I can talk about such things and not be deemed a basket case.