I don’t know how you all do it, I am struggling and it is only getting worse each day it seems. So I had my vasectomy back in 2009 I believe it was. My wife had gone through various issues but mainly as we had two kids the plan wasn’t to ever have anymore. Once they had arrived my wife demanded i had the vasectomy so off i trot to the doctors, get everything arranged and turned up on the day. The “Surgeon” didn’t put in anything to numb the right hand side then dived in to cut away.
The entire time after the initial cuts all I felt was lots of tugging and then it was over, huge amount of cotton wool type dressing/padding. put on your underwear and off you go. Wife waiting in the car, didn’t feel like driving so I end up driving on the way home get called from work (had taken a few days off) and told i needed to come in urgently. Spent the next 3 hours running around work and finally left, get home and find i have bled through all the dressing so have to re-dress this myself.
So over the past 12 years things have gradually got worse, for the first few days I had a couple of minor stabbing pains that went from side to side but thought well I have just been snipped so it is expected. Over the next couple of years the stabbing pains got worse and seemed to be mainly on the right hand side, I also started to find what felt like lumps in my testicles so went to my doctors who just passed it over and said there is nothing they can do and to “deal with it”. What I did notice was that after sex the lumps seemed to go down a bit but sex didn’t happen often and lumps continued to grow, I struggle to masturbate and so only ejaculate from sex/oral etc… and overtime the sex happens less and less to
the point where I am now in constant pain.
I have stabbing, aching pain’s on both sides now that give me stomach aches and even stop me going to the toilet in any fashion. Lumps that don’t go down but just seem to grow, the occasional sex now is painful to ejaculate and therefore provides no relief. I am starting to also know that because the pain from ejaculation is coming that I don’t know if I want to. The pain of my testicles swelling and the lumps growing after ejaculation is always there so I keep thinking just don’t have sex at all.
So then we come to today, I am in constant pain, struggle to go to the toilet some days. the doctor refuses to refer me to a specialist as they don’t believe that PVP is a thing and the last comment i got was that if it was a thing then there is no treatment. I have a wife that doesn’t care that it hurts or that it has for over 10 years, so I am pretty lost as what to do.
I wake often from the pain along with other pains i have from a chronic back issue and knee issues after serving in the forces, jumping from planes etc… and many other things that don’t help such as PTSD, depression etc…
I feel like I am just sitting here whining to the point were I just don’t talk to a single person anymore unless I am spoken to but if honest at 41 I don’t want this to continue for the rest of my life. I could live for another 40 years in constant pain but feel more and more compelled into wanting to find a tall building, bottle of pills or oncoming traffic.
thanks for listening anyway, helps sometimes to rant even if it is just to an internet board