While I just officially registered to this forum today, I’ve been reading it on and off for almost 5 years now. Got the vasectomy in November 2016 and having “fun” since… While I’m much better that I was 5 years ago, I’m still suffering from PVPS. Thanks to this forum, I was able to find some answers and realize I wasn’t the only one in the situation.
I consulted Dr Jarvi in Toronto in June 2019 and he suggested a Vasectomy Reversal. For a bunch of reasons, goods and bads (change of office, COVID, miscommunication) and the fact that I live in another province, they just recently confirmed a date for the surgery. I could have been this week, but it was too last minute I wasn’t ready. So I’m tentatively booked for December 7, five years after the v day. Now, I’m having cold feet about having the VR or not.
Here is my situation:
- Never had testicular or classic congestion pain (no pain after sex) and I’m not on medication, never pain at night, just when I move or sit.
- 90% of the pain is on the right side and seems to be nerve related (however, Dr Jarvi told me that we don’t know). It seem to be concentrated on the right spermatic cord, where it gets a bit swollen sometimes. On top of that, I think I have a varicocele. My pain seems more like an arthritis type of pain, increasing also with stress.
- While it has been a rollercoaster over the years, it has been better overall, with most days now around a level pain of 2 or less pain except sometimes where it can be bad for a couple days even weeks (3-4 out of 10, mainly in the winter. I can do activities (i.e biking) when I’m in a good way that I wasn’t even thinking about doing the first 2-3 years.
Now the million dollars question:
Like most of you who had a VR or consider to do it, after all those years that I’ve learn how to deal with the PVPS, I wonder if it’s worthwhile to take the risk, or if I’m “bad enough” to do it at this point. Like everybody else, I certainly don’t want to be worse and I’m still suffering PTSD from the original vasectomy (in my case an intern was “learning” on me…). On good days, I say that I can live with it and on bad days, I’d like to give a shot. I have the impression that whatever I do, I’ll make the wrong decision. While at the end I know it’ll be my decision and there is not clear answers, considering what I said on my situation and specifically for guys who had a VR, any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks and sorry for taking so long before writing on this forum.