Duke I am so sorry to hear you are struggling. I asked the exact same questions at 2 months. For myself that was when things really started to go bad. I hate to even type this for you but it is out of compassion because there is a good chance you are going to need help.
At 8 weeks your starting to bother doctors enough that things start to move ultrasounds, uro appts, etc.
My ultrasounds were coming back either clear or nothing significant. At 8 weeks I started goobling pain meds on our summer holiday saying to my wife that something is really wrong here.
There is a possibility this all goes away. Your uro will not do anything for you till 3 months. This is the prudent and correct thing to do. I pray that it resolves. Kyle and I spoke earlier today and both of us agreed that as much as it was nice to meet each other we both wish it wasn’t because of PVPS.
I had pain that was so beyond any pain I had ever had I thought my eyes were going to pop out. It sounds like you are having the same issues.
You are not to impatient. I would start asking uro about how you can manage pain over the next month until conservative 3 month mark is under your belt. I would start to tell HR at work about a possible medical issue.
I would have your wife read a couple posts so she has an idea just how painful this is. If you are not on some kind of SSRI for depression I would talk to doctor. Cymbalta may help immediately with nerve issues and depression. I would ask about gabapentin or lyrica.
I found lyrica too trippy but it may work for you. If your one of us you will find the antibiotics will do nothing.
Also this board has fantastic advice so reach out to people. You are not alone.