Today marks 3 months since my unilateral reversal on my left side only.I think I’m the first guy on the forum to go this route.
Firstly some people may wonder why I opted for a reversal on one side.Well in truth I didn’t opt my reversal surgeon was pretty adamant that he was only willing to operate on one side.I have never had so much as a twinge on my right side.
@worship01 kinda covers some of what I say below in one of his posts mentioning about a reversal surgeon mentioning that there is some very fine nerves located near the epi.
The reason for this was he felt that I was not congested even though my pain would heighten after sex.
He in fact reckoned I was suffering from neuropathic pain,but he said that sometimes by clearing scar tissue away from the vasectomy site sometimes gives men relief of their pain.
So do I agree with his opinion ? Yes,if tender to touch testicles,enlarged epi,kicked in the balls feeling,able to have sex once a week etc is congestion this frankly was not me.
All of my pain was stinging,pinching,burning etc so much so that in my latter months Pre reversal I developed what was a sciatica like pain transferred to my foot (left only) which unfortunately started to heighten after ejaculation.
So much so that I had ejuculated only 3 times in a 3-4 month period.
So do I in my opinion believe all guys with pain after sex are sufffering from congestion? No would be my answer but I do believe that the majority do.
My pain also started out pretty close to my initial vasectomy a week to be precise,initially I had no testicular pain it was more like a stinging at the vasectomy site (my first post here you’ll see I said this)
My reversal surgeon also believed that the fact I had pain out the gates would suggest more nerve type pain.This guy has done 4000 reversals and about 80 for pvps so he’s no Mickey Mouse Urologist.
So moving onto the reversal,up till about the 7th week post reversal I will frankly and honestly say it was horrendous I would go as far to say some of the pains I had where not livable long term.
During this time I ejaculated every 2-3 days and found that they where still painful but more manageable and in general only lasted a day.
On the 7th week I woke to what I would describe as a turning down of my pain almost like turning the knob down on the radio.Thus brought the pain to a much more manageable level.
During those early weeks post reversal I was coming here to the forum panicing but then I came across a post by @RingoStar who mentioned reversal recovery’s are a long slow process,I also remembered my reversal surgeon stating this too me twice during discussions with him he also said something else to me “ejaculation is part of the healing process”and “try to be patient “ so I kinda taught to my self “Hey your going to have to grin and bare this shit out and keep positive even during those crap days”
So thankfully I can safely say at 3 months I have seen a good improvement my foot pain has receded and I have a functioning sex life again my last 2 ejaculations have brought on no extra pain.
Am I cured ? No I still have pain in my foot and am restricted in my sex life.
Is my quality of life better ?Yes
I contacted my reversal surgeon yesterday and gave him my update.He said to take heart from my improvements and again stated that I won’t know where I’m at till 9-12 months post reversal.
Of course I don’t know where I’ll be at then but I remain positive,patient and hopeful.And I will not give up.
I feel I am getting my life back and it feels good!!
So I’m going to put my neck on the line here by stating this but before I do I’d like to say:
I would never tell anyone to get a reversal if you chose not to and go for time that’s your choice and to each their own I say.
But I don’t think all of us will get better with time,unfortunately some of us will have to head down the surgical route but only when all conservative measures have been exhausted
Some will disagree with this but in my opinion it’s the harsh truth.
My reversal surgeon told me that my pain would not go away with time but didn’t guarantee success with reversal either he quoted me 50/50 full pain relief.So I took what I feel was a very hard decision to make ie I had to fly from my country to another that I’m not overly familiar with even though it’s only a short flight away.
My father 60 pushed me through the airports on the way home in a wheelchair,we laugh about it now but at the time it was far from funny.
Think what you want of above it’s just my taughts and opinion I’m not a doctor just a builder.
I haven’t had an SA yet but I do intend to in the coming weeks to at least know if I need contraception.
So to any man reading this now or in the future you too can have hope although I am not cured i have hope and it is better than what I had before.
@SomeGreyBIoke Paul I truly hope you get the relief you deserve stay strong pal you WILL get there !!
All the best