Hey guys. I’m not really the forum type but during the last 9 months I’ve read just about every page in this website, so I thought the least I could do was give back a little.
After my vasectomy I found myself in the same shoes many of you are in. I was in pain, and the doctor was brushing it under the rug and told me I just wasn’t handling the pain well.
(Before I move on I’ll preface what I’m about to say with this: I was in the Special Forces and had been injured many times in my carrier, I am not the sensitive complain about it type.)
Fast forward three weeks I’m sitting in front of the doctor who is squeezing the heck out of my testicles in front of two young female inturns and it was all I could do not to loose it. I was sitting there sweating on the table after the exam and he told me I needed to go see a PT to learn how to relax my pelvic floor. I told him it didn’t feel like muscle pain, but permanent blue balls. He arrogantly told me I didn’t know what I was talking about and needed to be less sensitive.
I took his advice, and wasted 2 more weeks in pain then called my buddy that is a urologist. He told me to get a second opinion, so I did. I got to the next Doc and after he felt me up he told me that my epididimis was firm and probably causing PVPs. Although he did reversals he said he would want to refer me to someone with more expertise, so I made another appointment on his referral about 2 hours away.
Fast forward roughly 2 months and I’m now sitting in front of the new Doc. He suggested a denervearion of the chord. I told him that I had suffered nerve damage in the past, and got over it, but the procedure didn’t sit right with me so he agreed to a reversal. I told him if for some reason the reversal didn’t work, we could talk about cutting nerves at that point.
I scheduled the reversal for 10/8/18, which obviously I didn’t make it to as I’ve already had the surgery. The reason was I wanted to get past the busy season at work and the pain was at a uncomfortable but “suck it up” level most of the time.
A month later the “I need to spread the legs and sit down” kind of pain was coming more frequent but I was determined to deal with it. About a week later my wife and I had sex and the next day my testicles felt like they could pop at any time, unlucky for me this was a Sunday. I called the Doc first thing Monday morning and told them what was happening. Luckily a spot had opened up the next Monday for surgery so I took the appt. They prescribed pain meds, and I spent the next week in bed unless I had to get up.
After the surgery the doctor told my wife that there was a significant amount of back pressure and the surgery went well, by the time I came around he was gone. It’s been a full week and outside of the stitches and incision I can feel that the pressure pain is gone. They told me that this procedure would be worse than the vasectomy, it’s been a walk in the Park compared to what I went through. It’s too early to tell but so far so good, I still am uncomfortable from the surgery but mostly from the stitches catching on my jock.
I skipped a lot because I’m typing this on my phone but I have felt depressed, tired, stupid, and hopeless all at different times through the process. I even found myself considering ending it at one point, even after making it through deployments without a single mental issue. I am 34 years old and all I could think about was having to suck it up for my kids. I was pretending to want sex with my wife so that she didn’t think I was “off,” but I went from a ridiculous sex drive to having to set reminders on my phone to remind me to act interested that night. The amount of mental anguish this has caused seems completely not normal. There is certainly more to getting “snipped” than what they know.
I the last week my sex drive has surged, ironically I can’t do anything for another week though. However I do get the blue balls feeling about it goes away normally like before I got my vasectomy.
I’m ranting now, but I’ll add more if anyone has questions and update as the weeks pass.