First off: I wish I had found this info before my husband had his vasectomy. I thought we had done our research and weighing up our options a vasectomy seemed like the best and lowest-risk option. Everyone we spoke to, including those that had had the procedure, laid it out as a very minor procedure. So much regret now! ;(
So my husband had an open-ended ‘no scalpel’ vasectomy on the 7th of January 2018 (3 weeks ago).
The first couple of days were uneventful: just the expected soreness which was easily managed with rest, ice & pain meds.
After a few days there seemed to be no improvement however…the nurse from the clinic blamed this on over-icing and told us to expect more pain and swelling for another week.
At the 10 day point his pain was still bad, and he had developed other symptoms such as painful urination, swelling around his right side incision and increasingly sharp pains going into his abdomen and groin on that right side. We went to an after hours centre where they prescribed him antibiotics and extra anti-inflammatories. The doc there explained (although he didn’t actually take a look) there was inflammation and possible scarring around the incision and indicated it would take several weeks to heal.
My husband greatly improved over the next 2 days. Then on the night of the third he woke with severe pain in his testicles & travelling upwards in spikes. The doctor who did the vasectomy adviced us to go to A&E as there was concern the infection had spread.
We were out 12 hours later with a “no reason detected for symptoms” diagnosis, and more antibiotics and pain killers. He had blood & protein in his urine, but all other tests came back clear. The consulting urologist was particularly rude indicating his pain was ‘self-inflicted’ and men knew the risks of PVP(S) when they choose to have a vasectomy. He suggested the only way to find out what was causing the pain was to cut him back open.
Anyway, despite the massive emotional toll this took on us, we regrouped and stayed positive. In addition to the traditional drugs, I’ve introduced supporting therapies such as Turmeric/Golden Paste, Magnesium, High dose B-vitamins, massage/yoga and meditation.
He greatly improved this week, being finally pain free at rest, being able to get in and out of bed normally, and moving around (at walk) comfortably for short durations. We were relieved and felt we had dodged the PVPS bullet.
Then exactly a week later, he was once again woken with intense pain. The best way I can describe it is “testicle contractions”. It looks like the smooth muscle tissue is moving his testicles around angrily, and the pain comes in waves like a contraction.
It’s not a constant pain, but comes on randomly and can last for a few hours. I’m not keen on it but have given him some of the Tramadol the hospital gave which at least brings it down to a manageable level.
Question 1: Does anyone know what causes these specific cramps, and what we could try to calm the area down? Warm baths seem to make it worse.
Question 2: I’m trying to find info on whether (regular/daily) ejaculating is helpful (husband claims it is ) or whether abstinence may be worth trying for a bit until things settle?
Question 3: We are now 3 weeks in, which also means 5 weeks off work (as he’d had 2 weeks off pre-surgery). We can stretch it a bit longer financially but not too much. How much does physical activity/stress affect healing? If it will make a big difference I’d rather he took off some more time; but if the process will run it’s course regardless it may be better to avoid more financial strain, especially if we’re looking at funding treatment for this.
Thank you for running this forum where I feel I can ask these sensitive questions, and good luck to those who suffer. It’s cruel to have to see let alone experience.