I appreciate you sharing your thoughts, and experience brother. My remaining pain post reversal/s is a lot like you describe before you had de-nervation. I have intermittent chronic pain primarily after I ejaculate, or if I ejaculate frequently. Other than that, I am somewhat normal. I have to keep medication on standby, and do a few other things to keep my PvP/s in check, but I drew the line years ago far as ever being totally pain free.
My pains have been all over the board through the course of my pvps. My main pain areas are left vas, left epi tail, left groin, left hip, left hamstring, left varicocele, prostate area, tail bone, etc. I dont have a simple case of pvps by any means.
I have followed the outcomes of many after this procedure. I have seen people rave, and post positive reviews for Dr X, and months later be posting in a pain forum saying they were in pain again, or it had switched up, or switched sides, etc.
I think many get caught up in trying to be completely pain free, and end up worse off. I encourage everyone to hold off on having multiple corrective procedures to close together. Far as all these statistics go, I'm with you on all that.
I have blazed my own trail through my PvP/s. Many doctors didn't agree with what I did, or what I think. God knows where I would be at if I had done everything doctors told me I should do.
The smartest, and most wise advice I was given after I had my reversals, and a varicocele embolization procedure was, don't have any more surgery/s. Give it much time, PT, etc, and you may improve. We are talking about years.
I wish I knew what to say, or had advice on what to do for those that suffer the consequences of de-nervation gone bad. Medication/s are my best guess, and perhaps in time, some doctor will come up with something that will help. I'm sorry to hear these story's. I have read many of them over 7+ years. Not all done by one specific doctor either.