Hi, all. I’ve lurked in the Yahoo! forum for a bit, though I don’t know if my problems really belong here or not. Please tell me if I am out of line. Since having my vasectomy two months ago I have been fortunate to have not suffered from chronic pain, just an obvious increase in testicular sensitivity… which I kind expected going in. My issues have been on the sexual side of things and heartbreaking for my wife and I (me especially). I’ve noticed various changes but here are the two major ones:
- I immediately noticed reduced sensitivity in my penis following the procedure. I wasn’t overly concerned at first because I considered it part of the recovery process and assumed/hoped it would come back. It never did and continues to feel strangely numb. This just kills me. It shocked me how different it felt when having sex for the first time post-vasectomy (yes, I know I’m not supposed to be doing that yet). At best it feels like I have a condom on but even that’s giving the feeling too much credit.
- Orgasm is in no way the same. After the first few ejaculations I thought it was just “different” and would eventually get back to what I remembered as normal. Two months out, no change. Sex is far from all about orgasm but it’s important to understand that when it’s out of the picture or dramatically reduced, it changes the entire experience. I can just tell that my balls are not involved in orgasm, which is gutting because they used to play a role. I’ve found I can have better orgasms through masturbation than sex (still not the greatest), and that’s just incredibly depressing. Like many people report, my ejaculate is more clear and watery, and I think there is slightly less, but barely. The whole buildup to orgasm just isn’t the same, too.
Anyway, depending on how this is received, if at all, I can share a few more differences and some details on my recovery process. These sex issues have just shattered my confidence and experience, and I’m incredibly depressed because of it. I’ve been seeing a therapist for about a month. I feel terrible for those of you with chronic pain and I am lucky to not to have it (and hopefully won’t).
Naturally, I was told by two urologists that these issues could not have been caused by my vasectomy. I did try to contact a few neurologists but was told they cannot help me and I’ll have to try some others. I am already contemplating reversal just to get things closer to the way they were before and do have a few consultations lined up. I am desperate. I know there will probably be no going back to the way things were completely, but this has just destroyed a gigantic part of my life. This would suck for anyone to experience at any age, but I am only 31.
If you read this thank you, and again, please let me know if I should not have posted this. I know it’s not pain but these changes from vasectomy have changed me in a very tragic and dramatic way.