I’m a wife, not a guy, so I don’t have any practical advice . Just wanted to reach out and say I’m sorry, and to hang in there. We have kids too (seven of them, ages 12 yrs to 22 mos) and this has completed altered the way we live our life. I hurt so deeply for those of us with young kids - this shouldn’t happen to us. Shouldn’t happen to anyone, really, but it’s REALLY, really hard when you have little ones.
As a wife/mom, I think the best advice I can give you is to take a deep breath, and really weigh out your options. The other guys are right - there does seem to be two types of pain - congestion and nerve. Maybe some self-trouble shooting and conversation with the guys here can help you figure out which pain you think it is, and that will help you decide where to go next. Keep your wife involved, sounds like she’s right in this with you and that’s SO so good!
As a married couple, just keep those lines of communication open, stay on the same team. She’ll have days, speaking from a wife’s perspective, where she gets tired and frustrated with, but be patient with her and let her vet out those emotions. We PVPS wives love our guys fiercly but truly do NOT know what it’s like to live with this chronic pain, so sometimes we don’t have the patience we should or get frustrated. It’s ok - it’s all part of the package. Sounds like you two have a great relationship, and that is so key.
Stay strong! Take things a day at a time. This is a great group of people, and I/we have learned more here than anywhere else!
Best of luck.
Jenn / Imthemissus