My situation is a bit different than what I'd call "normal" guys that had a vasectomy. I had a previous, dormant, scrotal pain condition, thus I find it challenging to compare myself to any other case as an equal example, or statistic. I'd say I got double wammied.
What worked for me? Little complicated here as I had two reversals. First one helped fas as no more of certain pains, but recovery was very challenging. I had a second reversal which was far easier than my first, and it helped me further while I was open. I screwed myself with a third procedure - a varicocele embolization procedure to treat my old pre existing condition, and that messed me all up for quite some time.
Honestly, it's hard to say where I would be if I only had one reversal, and left it alone. I could never honestly say one way, or another. I've done what I've done.
I left myself alone after the third surgery I had. When you start getting unexpected responses, and negative results from procedures, it's easy to get shy of more surgery. Tack on the fact that I had two reversals fail, one was from a guru. After that, I just gave up. Waiting things out indefinitely was suggested by my peers, and mentors, and that's exactly what I've done since.
What got me through all them dark days, and time? Medication such as tramadol, and celebrex. Staying active. Finding the perfect underwear. Stretching out my hamstrings and midsection several times daily. Some earbuds and music while I worked, or played. Anything to get my mind off my condition, I would do. Xbox, cannabis, meds, anything. Time measured in years, not weeks/months has produced some positive results.
We have no children at home, so daily life at the house isn't quite the normal pvps guys circumstances either.