For what it’s worth @Rob, my second reversal failed way back in 2013, and I managed to stay very active in the getting busy department, whether it be with my wife, or myself. I definitely get the urge to release still.
Far as the feeling upon climax, it’s not quite what I’d call pre vas normal, but it’s still generally good over the past many years.
I wouldn’t get to wrapped up in the idea that if your testosterone is low, it will have much of an effect on how it feels when you ejaculate, but maybe…
I was always a busy bunny pre vas. Whether it was with my wife, or myself. I was a busy bunny for sure.
Post vas, everything tanked. After my first failed reversal things got better, but not good.
I had a second reversal, and the patency lasted about 2~ years. During them two years, I ejaculated nearly every single day in an attempt to keep things from scarring closed. It took a lot of visual stimulation to pull that off. Magazines, videos, etc. And during that time period, I’d say my sex drive, and my drive in general went back to nearly pre vas.
I’m not suggesting what worked for me will work for you, but what I’m saying may be worth a shot for anyone that would feel comfortable trying that out. I realize many wouldn’t consider that option for many reasons. My wife and I have never had any children together, no kids at home, etc. My wife knew that was part of the deal as my ejaculation frequency was recommended by my second reversal surgeon (once every 24~ hours, 48 hours max). Theres no way my wife could’ve pulled that off, and I did what I had to do with no shame, or not much anyway.
Anyway, hopefully you get this sorted. Hard to say if your issues are more less purely psychological, anything comparable to what I went through far as a crashed sex drive, poor orgasm, etc, or if there’s more to it than that. There seems to be a lot of unknowns in regard to post vasectomy side effects.
For what it’s also worth, I’ve heard of many guys that managed to get it back, improvements, etc, and some that did not. Results certainly vary.
Keep us posted, and good luck.