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Just scheduled my reversal


#1

I just scheduled my reversal with Dr. Jarvi for September at Mt. Sinai. In September I will be just shy of a year post-vas.

I have the utmost respect and confidence with Dr. Jarvi, and we’re incredibly lucky to have him. My reversal is also fully covered by our government health insurance, so this is costing me precisely $0. I feel bad for you guys who have to fork out huge money or fight with insurance companies just for some relief. It’s tragic really.

Although, I’ve improved a bit in the past few months, well it seems that my nerve issues are improving, but my congestion pains are worsening slightly perhaps. I’m at the point now where I don’t take any meds except for maybe some tylenol here and there, and my pain doesn’t really stop me from doing much, except for say running and maybe a few other things, but it does slow me down, and it’s unpleasant, not to mention, I always worry about whether the pain is going to flare up when I’m out in public or at a social event, etc. The pain ebbs and flows throughout the day, sometimes I’ll even get a few minutes or an hour of no pain, which is nice, but it always comes back.

I don’t know if the reversal will ‘cure’ me, but I have high hopes that it will do a lot for my congestive pains, and perhaps improve my nerve issues. I’ve gotta hope so anyways. I mean, most guys have some improvement from a reversal.

As you can imagine I’m nervous as hell now. I know Dr. Jarvi told me that he hasn’t had anyone get worse from a reversal, and I do believe that, but I keep thinking - there’s a first time for everything, right? I mean, I can live my life right now, but I don’t want to be in pain, especially not in my junk, so I have to at least try and find out what’s behind door no. 2.

But, if I get worse, I’m in big trouble…even if I’m just 10% worse, that could be enough to render me disabled, and I’ll be living a life of even more regret than I am now.

I understand that no one here has the answers, and neither do the docs. Hell, even Dr. Jarvi told me that we have to “roll the dice” and see what happens.

I’m trying to stay positive and hoping for the best, but I’m scared to death of what’s next. Not to mention, the hellish recovery I could be in for.


#2

Andrew i met with my reversal specialist and he is ready to do a reversal on me, on the other hand i am stalling scared as hell. I can have mine done as early as june 5 but i havent booked it yet.


#3

@Loz I hear ya bro, I know most guys improve somewhat with a reversal, but there have been a few who have gotten worse.

I keep asking myself, if this ‘safe and simple procedure’ fucked me up this bad, imagine what could happen with a reversal?


#4

Andrew, you’ve got 3 months to really know if its the right thing for you. If the pain is still there, and affecting your quality of life, then you will know you have made the right decision. Good luck and I will be following your progress closely, so please keep us informed.


#5

“I don’t know if the reversal will ‘cure’ me, but I have high hopes that it will do a lot for my congestive pains, and perhaps improve my nerve issues. I’ve gotta hope so anyways. I mean, most guys have some improvement from a reversal.”

This is good, you have the right attitude as far as managing your expectations.

“As you can imagine I’m nervous as hell now. I know Dr. Jarvi told me that he hasn’t had anyone get worse from a reversal, and I do believe that, but I keep thinking - there’s a first time for everything, right? I mean, I can live my life right now, but I don’t want to be in pain, especially not in my junk, so I have to at least try and find out what’s behind door no. 2.”

You are ready. What you are saying is what I was saying. You are at that point where this is not a hasty decision and you are thinking about it the way any sane person would.

"But, if I get worse, I’m in big trouble…even if I’m just 10% worse, that could be enough to render me disabled, and I’ll be living a life of even more regret than I am now.

I understand that no one here has the answers, and neither do the docs. Hell, even Dr. Jarvi told me that we have to “roll the dice” and see what happens.

I’m trying to stay positive and hoping for the best, but I’m scared to death of what’s next. Not to mention, the hellish recovery I could be in for."

This sounds like me. I was thinking the same thing. I was terrified. Just manage your expectations and calm your mind using any means you can get a hold of. A short term script for some tranquilizers whatever it takes.

My reversal took excruciating pain and made it liveable. You can’t exist in the amount of pain you’re in and stay sane. I think you are making the right decision for you.


#6

I too was really nervous about a reversal-my wife thought it would kill me if the original vas messed me up so bad. Actually it was better than I thought-yes pain and swelling and a few weeks of taking it real easy but I instantly felt better. Here’s hoping you do too!


#7

Hey Andrew. I read your post and wanted to write you some words of hope. Three years ago I was in your exact shoes. I’d give it 6 months and it wasn’t constant pain but it was ebbs and flows throughout the day, as you said. The doc who did my vasectomy was an asshole, shrugging off my complaints. I went to Mt Sinai and met both Dr. Kirk Lo and Jarvi. I ended up making the decision on reversal with Dr Lo (who was amazing). I was terrified as well. I had my vasectomy on my 35th birthday and the reversal on my 36th…no shit. Best decision I ever made. It was a looong recovery, with ups and downs the first year, but it sounds like you’re in a good place with expectations. You sliced your nerves and screwed up your body so it takes time to reverse that damage. So in closing…give it a good 6 to 12 months after surgery to let you body heal. Don’t get discouraged. By the second year my balls, which was all I could think about during my pvp, was an afterthought and rarely bothered me in any way. Right now I’m 100%. I do everything I used to do before my vasectomy…including worrying about birth contol with my wife :slight_smile:. Wish you all the best in your recovery.


#8

@vasregret If it helps, I had a reversal in March (about 22 months post vas). I don’t regret it at all. I’m improving every week since - the first few weeks I still had frequent aches but at a lower level. Then the aches were less frequent. Now, I have some very minor aches a couple times per week and it’s generally improving. My biggest discomfort comes from where a granuloma was cut out -
that are is particularly sensitive but that’s to be expected. Sex and orgasms feel improved too, which was also a big complaint of mine. My biggest current complication from the reversal is that my left testicle sits a bit higher than it used to because the first urologist cut out too much during the vasectomy, I’m still adjusting to that but I’ll take the trade off.

Mental benefits have been huge - I still regret the original vasectomy and have my moments for frustration and anger but they are must less frequent since I don’t have a daily reminder through pain. Before, I was constantly fighting to keep my mind in a happy place over this. I agree with @kyle about giving it time.

Finally, that’s amazing that you have coverage - I really miss the $9,000 I had to shell out. I’m making a claim for reimbursement but my expectations are limited.


#9

Good luck with your reversal brother


#10

Thanks for the words of encouragement everyone.

Ya know, it’s funny, because I remember thinking that if I could get to the point where I could do most of my activities and not have to be on meds that I would just tough it out and not go for surgery. I remember reading a lot of stories on here about guys who had pain that didn’t require meds and didn’t inhibit their activities, yet they still went for a reversal. I used to think that it would be crazy to get a reversal if your pain wasn’t crippling, but here I am now, and I just want this pain gone or at least lessened, hence the reversal.

@Jason @orange @kyle @RingoStar - Dr. Jarvi has told me that I won’t (or shouldnt) be able to lift anything heavy for at least a month, and I plan on following his advice to the letter - how long did you guys wait post-reversal before say exercising, doing yard work, lifting heavy stuff etc?


#11

Andrew, follow his advice for sure. It was a good 6 weeks before I did anything strenuous and 2 months before I did any light exercise. Even if you’re feeling up for it, just take it very slow. It’s such fine surgery you just want to let everything heal, especially when nerves are involved.


#12

@vasregret Buy a fleshlight. You will need to ejac each day and your scrotal skin will be sore. This makes it easier on the wound than a hand.

I waited 2 months to exercise, and I was diligent about the 1 month no lifting. The no lifting is more to help your small blood vessels heal down there than anything. The tissues need good blood supplies. I also wore a jock at almost all times for 2 months. I had a pretty comfortable recovery.


#13

Yep yep, I second this.

I took several weeks off after both my reversals. I work with steel, and metals, and had to get a helper at times when I returned to work. Follow the icing routine, and med routine your surgeon recommends post reversal. The idea is to keep the inflammation down as you heal, but it will help with the post op pain as well. I was better off wearing two pairs of boxer briefs, rather than a jock strap. Dr Marks was cool w that, and I did better the second time around without the jock.

Best of luck bro