Thanks @MikeO - I definitely am trying to take the opposite of my high school football coach's mentality.
I was trying for the gentle nudge on hijacking. I want to keep posting on this thread on my recovery so people can follow. For every active poster, there are probably five guys who are inactive posters but reading, and another 20 who haven't joined yet, but are in the initial bewildered stage of "holy shit I didn't think I'd have pain from this vas and it hasn't gone away yet!" or "What the hell why am I suddenly getting pain X months/years from the vas?"
There are two big parts to healing for people on this board. First is the pain itself - there are a bunch of different paths and treatment to try. The second is psychological. If the pain is wrecking one's life, clearly one's going to try to get rid of the pain first, but there's also a lot of effort to dealing with any anger and regret issues since the pain stems from a voluntary or "voluntary" decision. (The quotes refers to the folks who made a voluntary decision under pressure from the wife or others)
I'm clearly not out of the woods with pain. I feel as though I've traded pressure and general aches for mild surgical pain when things down there shift. The key difference is that my current pain feels like the type of pain that will heal. Given that I had no sperm and clear fluid/no fluid, even at 14 months, I would seem have a high chance the reversal would fail for fertility. We'll see.
My most likely source of injury will be pressure to do more housework or one of my kids banging my nuts. I have three girls, so not as crazy as boys, but still able to just jab you somehow when you're sitting or standing too close. Wife is also in a shitty mood after I had a week of bed rest and I now can't lift anything. I bite my tongue but I really want to mention that we arranged 5-6 months of maternity leave for her for each kid. I don't say anything since any commenting would be a losing proposition.