I definitely try to talk people out of it, especially friends. No doubt I’ve saved many from ever having to deal with any of this stuff.
If vasectomy didn’t carry all of the inherent risks it would be different. You never know what your outcome will be. That’s both short term, and long term.
I tell them about pvp, pvps, side effects, all of the possibilities.
I too know of at least one friend that did it anyways. I don’t see him much, and have no clue about his outcome. I couldn’t believe he did it tho (knowing my story).
I too know of a gal in the workplace that knew what happened to me, and she concealed any knowledge about what I was going through from her husband, and manipulated him into doing it anyway. I have no idea how he made out either.
I used to talk about this stuff way more with people in my daily life. A lot of people don’t want to listen, and sometimes is not worth the hassle, headache, and/or the rejection. If anyone I know ends up with a negative outcome, they can’t say I never tried to tell them at some point.