My current status isn’t hellish very often. Much of my day in, day out neuropathic pains have subsided over time.
I still deal with ebbs and flows of pain, primarily brought on by ejaculating. It’s generally worse when I get busy with my wife vs a quicky with myself.
Multiple quickies with myself, or a combination of with my wife, and self within a 24 hour timeframe will bring on some pretty serious pain on my left side, which is by far my worst side.
Far as ejaculating goes, I never know what I’m going to experience in the moment, or afterwards. My condition gets better, and worse again through time (ebbs, and flows).
I had a pre-existing, dormant pain wise varicocele condition on my left side prior to the vasectomy.
After years of trial and error, and 3 corrective procedures later, I have determined I suffer from at least 3 different things. Varicocele pain, congestive pains, and neuropathic pains (nerve damage).
I had my first reversal approximately 4 months post vasectomy. I had my second reversal (redo) approximately a year after my first. I have been sterile (failure) for approximately 4-5 years (fall 2013).
Part of your issues are due to stress, anxiety, etc IMO. I’m not suggesting any of your problems are “in your head”, but any problems such as pvp/s can lead to other issues such as stress, anxiety, etc.
I think it’'s very likely your hormones are out of wack post vas, and some of that will likely get better over time. At the moment, this could be making you worse far as stress, anxiety, etc.
Tie all this together, and you have a recipe for disaster IMO.
Hang in there brother. With any luck, you should pull through this in time. I didn’t say it was going to be easy, or drag you through the depths of hell mentally before you get there.