I figured it was time to update this thread. My husband did in fact have an Inguinal hernia on his left side where he was getting the groin pain. He went to a popular hernia centre in our area where they finally diagnosed him (even though he had an ultrasound that came back negative a month or so earlier). He had the surgery around 3 months ago. Just to repeat from my original post, he had no symptoms of a hernia before the vasectomy. The coincidence is still mind blowing. I feel like the vas definitely had something to do with the hernia coming to light, even if it was just my husband moving and lifting differently after the procedure. He also had vas procedure pain right out of the gate and had an infection at his incision site.
Recovery has been up and down. The hernia surgery went well and the majority of his most severe pains have went away (specifically his pain while lifting and discomfort when sitting). This was a very positive outcome to these symptoms but with that positive news, there is still a lot of other vas related issues he is dealing with.
He is getting aches in his left testicle that he didn’t really have issues with before. He thinks that it’s the clips rubbing on the inside even though we don’t know for sure he had clips. He is now 7 months post vas so I don’t know if congestion issues are starting OR he had issues before with this but his groin issues were covering up his dull aches in his testicles. He is having testicular pain that radiates from his left testicle up the his groin when he coughs. The pain lingers for a while. This is a fairly new issue so I’m not sure if it’s related to his hernia surgery or the vas (to be fair). The hernia centre he went to said he could have surgery pain for up to a year because his body is still recovering.
I think the psychological effects of the vas have been the most damaging to my husband thus far. Anyone who says that vasectomies don’t affect libido, ED and other sexual side effects are full of it. My husband is suffering from this big time. I personally think he’s going through a depression and has been since he got it. He didn’t want to do it and he feels his masculinity has been compromised.
Recently he has complained about the sensitivity of his penis, comparing it to a numbness. I have noticed a difference in his erections and I think he even faked having an orgasm the other day because he’s having a hard time keeping his penis hard. His sex drive is way down and I know this is not a reflection on me but I can’t help but feel deflated again that this is happening to him. This journey has been a roller coaster that seems to have more lows than highs.
I’ve urged him to seek help but at this point he’s refusing. I think his problems could even be low T because of all the issues he is experiencing but he never had it checked before so there would be no numbers to compare. He’s also gained a bit of weight since his hernia surgery and just all together is not himself.
I hope some of this resolves in time but I don’t know if it will. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I want my husband back and the vas was the worst thing that could have ever happened to him. I don’t think I’ll ever get over the guilt of this happening to him. I feel like he’s going through all of these other issues so I should be feeling something and in this case, it’s guilt and responsibility.