I’m certainly not going to type out all my story far as every last detail because it’s not healthy to re-live all them emotions when I’ve worked all this stuff out best I could years ago, and still struggle with it periodically.
As others have mentioned, vasectomy can, or does change the dynamic of so much, especially when you have a negative outcome, or pathway into the vasectomy.
Woman that force, apply to much pressure, convince their man to do it for a multitude of reasons despite their man’s wishes, etc, stand the best chance at destroying their relationship, and I’d say the majority of them don’t even see it coming because they don’t know any better.
I’d been for the most part happily married for years prior to the vas. The vas had been discussed years beforehand, and I’d always been opposed. Tack on the fact that I have a permanent lower back injury, had a dormant pre-existing varicocele pain condition, I definitely wasn’t down with the vasectomy. My gut told me to run.
I was pressured to have the vas. Nagged on, harped on, given ultimatums, fighting about my reservations, the usual crap. I had my in-laws harping on me about it, friends, coworkers, etc, spewing it was perfectly safe, nothing to fear, safe and simple, quick recovery, the typical stuff.
Of course post pvps, I came to find out that some of those friends, and coworkers were not completely fine afterwards, and many of them had some sort of side effects at minimum.
Needless to say, I nearly ended up divorced over my outcome many years ago. Even to this day, the dynamic of our relationship has been permanently damaged. We’ve done pretty well far as moving forward, but the memories, and mental scars remain, especially on my end. I’d say some of the dynamics of our relationship have been permanently altered for the worst.
I certainly wouldn’t recommend anyone loath in this stuff often. The stuff you are talking about is quite destructive, and will likely lead to no good.
I’ve read stories about guys that had uneventful vasectomys far as pain, and complications go that ended up divorced over it. I suppose it all depends on how “disconnected” a man feels afterwards, or how bad the sexual side effects, etc are. This stuff varies man to man.