So here goes. My husband had his vas 5 weeks ago. At this point we are both very upset to say the least and really don’t know if what he is experiencing is normal or ever going to stop. I’ve read loads of posts and I really haven’t seen anything that matches him, so some insight from you gentleman would be much appreciated. I’ll start from the beginning and try to make this short.
Day of surgery and 1st post op day he did everything he was supposed to. He had much more bruising than expected. Whole right side of testicle that also went on top of his shaft. No lumps or bumps tho and during the procedure (i was right there) the doc mentioned a skin bleed he was having trouble stopping.
2nd post op day he woke up feeling better and was on his feet much more than I wanted him to be. He wasn’t going crazy but was up and about for a good 12 hours and the swelling started and his pain increased. To be expected I’m sure and I was pissed he wouldn’t listen to me. He also wore boxer briefs instead of tighty whiteys, but did have gauze for support under them.
Post op days 3 and 4 he worked 1/2 days at desk then came home and iced. He even missed dart night on day 4 so I know it was pretty bad. The rest of the week the pain started to decrease and the swelling and bruising subsided. Day 7 I was able to get him to wear regular briefs but he said that made them ache more. Days 8 and 10 we decided to test the waters if you know what I mean, and he had no pain during or after. Just the regular tenderness he had been having. Day 11 he lifted something he probably shouldn’t have and felt it immediately. It took another couple of days for his pain to go back down to the 2-3 level.
Since then he has been genuinely uncomfortable with a dull ache up inside. He says it feels like its coming from up in between his testicles, compared the the aftershock of being kicked in the balls. Upon palpation there have never been any lumps, bumps or even spots that hurt. Like we can’t figure out exactly where its coming from. Some days it’ll go towards one side or the other, and some days it hurts up towards the base of his shaft and towards the groin. Still, its nothing that can be actually palpated to see where the pain is stemming from. No shooting, stabbing or punching. Just that damn ache.
He also started having periods of increased pain starting the day after sex that lasts for 2-3 days before subsiding again. Like before never any pain during the act whatsoever. In fact, if anything he is a little more sensitive (not in a bad way) and everything is working perfectly with no difference in fluid like other posters have had.
At 3.5 weeks he went back to the doc who couldn’t find anything abnormal and told him to put briefs on and gave him cipro which he finished but didn’t make a difference. After wearing the underwear for a day and having the doc probe him he had more pain than usual which lasted about 4 days before coming back to the normal leve of about 2 on the pain scale.
He says he wouldn’t classify it as real pain and that its “just uncomfortable” enough to know they are there all the time. His testicles always seem to be pulled up high all the time now as well which I think may be contributing to all this. They weren’t like that in the beginning. We are going to try hot baths as thats seemed to have worked for some of you. I’m hoping its not a congestion issue since most of the posts I’ve read say that pain comes on a bit later.
We are both terrified to have sex in case the pain gets worse again. No one else that either of us has spoken with had anything like this except for one guy that had a few issues for a month. I’m hoping beyond everything that maybe he had more trauma than normal and this will eventually pass but I am very very worried right now. We were both lead to believe this was an easy process with minimal healing time, and its been anything but. If you’ve hung around to read this book I wrote I appreciate it. Any thoughts/advice are welcome.