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3 months post reversal and some taughts


#1

Today marks 3 months since my unilateral reversal on my left side only.I think I’m the first guy on the forum to go this route.

Firstly some people may wonder why I opted for a reversal on one side.Well in truth I didn’t opt my reversal surgeon was pretty adamant that he was only willing to operate on one side.I have never had so much as a twinge on my right side.

@worship01 kinda covers this in one of his posts mentioned about a reversal surgeon mentioning that there is some very fine nerves located near the epi.

The reason for this was he felt that I was not congested even though my pain would heighten after sex.

He in fact reckoned I was suffering from neuropathic pain,but he said that sometimes by clearing scar tissue away from the vasectomy site sometimes gives men relief of their pain.

So do I agree with his opinion ? Yes,if tender to touch testicles,enlarged epi,kicked in the balls feeling,able to have sex once a week etc is congestion this frankly was not me.

All of my pain was stinging,pinching,burning etc so much so that in my latter months Pre reversal I developed what was a sciatica like pain transferred to my foot (left only) which unfortunately started to heighten after ejaculation.

So much so that I had ejuculated only 3 times in a 3-4 month period.

So do I in my opinion believe all guys with pain after sex are sufffering from congestion? No would be my answer but I do believe that the majority do.

My pain also started out pretty close to my initial vasectomy a week to be precise,initially I had no testicular pain it was more like a stinging at the vasectomy site (my first post here you’ll see I said this)

My reversal surgeon also believed that the fact I had pain out the gates would suggest more nerve type pain.This guy has done 4000 reversals and about 80 for pvps so he’s no Mickey Mouse Urologist who sends you home with pills or suggests the archaic procedure like an epi removal.

So moving onto the reversal,up till about the 7th week post reversal I will frankly and honestly say it was horrendous I would go as far to say some of the pains I had where not livable long term.

During this time I ejaculated every 2-3 days and found that they where still painful but more manageable and in general only lasted a day.

On the 7th week I woke to what I would describe as a turning down of my pain almost like turning the knob down on the radio.Thus brought the pain to a much more manageable level.

During those early weeks post reversal I was coming here to the forum panicing but then I came across a post by @RingoStar who mentioned reversal recovery’s are a long slow process,I also remembered my reversal surgeon stating this too me twice during discussions with him he also said something else to me “ejaculation is part of the healing process”and “try to be patient “ so I kinda taught to my self “Hey your going to have to grin and bare this shit out and keep positive even during those crap days”

So thankfully I can safely say at 3 months I have seen a good improvement my foot pain has receded and I have a functioning sex life again my last 2 ejaculations have brought on no extra pain.

Am I cured ? No I still have pain in my foot and am restricted in my sex life.

Is my quality of life better ?Yes

I contacted my reversal surgeon yesterday and gave him my update.He said to take heart from my improvements and again stated that I won’t know where I’m at till 9-12 months post reversal.

Of course I don’t know where I’ll be at then but I remain positive,patient and hopeful.And I will not give up.

I feel I am getting my life back and it feels good!!

So I’m going to put my neck on the line here by stating this but before I do I’d like to say:

I would never tell anyone to get a reversal if you chose not to and go for time that’s your choice and to each their own I say.

But I don’t think all of us will get better with time and I don’t think all of us will be better after reversal.

But some need a reversal some just need time.

My reversal surgeon told me that my pain would not go away with time but didn’t guarantee success with reversal either he quoted me 50/50 full pain relief.So I took what I feel was a very hard decision to make ie I had to fly from my country to another that I’m not overly familiar with even though it’s only a short flight away.

My father 60 pushed me through the airports on the way home in a wheelchair,we laugh about it now but at the time it was far from funny.

Think what you want of above it’s just my taughts and opinion I’m not a doctor just a builder.

I haven’t had an SA yet but I do intend to in the coming weeks to at least know if I need contraception.

So to any man reading this now or in the future you too can have hope although I am not cured i have hope and it is better than what I had before.

I would like to finish by thanking the men of this forum in particular @RingoStar & @atlanticcoast & @SomeGreyBIoke you have helped me when I was at my lowest and I thank you for that.

@SomeGreyBIoke Paul I truly hope you get the relief you deserve stay strong pal you WILL get there !!:muscle:t2:

All the best

Mark.


#2

Dude, I had a unilateral reversal on my left side in 2016. It’s posted.


#3

Apologies @Sentosa I didn’t realise i hadn’t come across your story on the forum.


#4

Thanks Mark, really pleased to read your update and am genuinely happy that you’re improving. It’s a tough battle, physically and probably emotionally even more so.


#5

I couldn’t agree more Paul very difficult at times


#6

Great update. You seem very hopeful, and I think you probably made the right decision going one side. I’m surprised more don’t uros don’t offer that as an option. My pain was all left side 2005-06, had bi-lateral reversal, pain free for 9-10 years, then a relapse here now. I always worried that the right-side reversal would create a problem. So far, so could. I occasionally feel some twinges on the right, but I think it’s referred.

Please keep us posted. Your story is compelling and interesting and educational for everyone.


#7

I will definitely keep you all updated probably not for a few months as I am taking a long term outlook on this.

I would also like to add that there was No granulomas found either at surgery so it was basically removal of scar tissue,hemoclip and reconnected.

I know @raising4girls you had a granuloma removed and believe that was your issue and it probably was but I often wonder about your case and was it scar tissue that helped as well.I suppose we’ll never know.

I do think about your case too as I feel I may be somewhat similar ?

Please keep me posted on how you are doing and I sincerely hope you get the relief you deserve


#8

I’ve been meaning to do a long update. I’ve seen 3 different specialists since late June and am mulling over the new information I’ve discovered.


#9

Was your previous relapse on the right side as well @raising4girls? Seem to remember you had a brief one back in 2008?


#10

Yes, my original pain, 08-09 relapse, and this one were all left side.

Oddly enough, I think it all goes back to the pre-vas exam. I remember wincing when he separated the vas on the left side from the cord a week before the vasectomy. I hurt that entire day and was sore the next day. I’ve often wondered if having the vas on injured tissue set me up for this long-term trial.


#11

The wincing thing is something I often think about too,on the day of the vasectomy I was was cut on my right side first and then left I winced for a 4-5 seconds when I was cut on my left.

I often wonder was there not enough anaesthetic applied on this side and was my bodies response to form more scar tissue than normal??

Another part me just believes I’m that little bit more sensitive down there,my reversal surgeon remarked that when he went to start the reversal I was still quite agitated even though I was under general anaesthetic.He noted more anaesthetic had to be applied.


#12

@raising4girls it would be interesting to hear your options and specialist opinions


#13

Posting update today.